The importance of closure

When things break and end, it’s always hard to move forward and past this feeling of loss, but there’s an important process that helps us cope with the situation and move past it which is closure. In this article we’ll discuss the importance of closure in situations that ended suddenly or ones that seem hard to move past.

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So what does closure mean?

Getting emotional closure means that you can “close the book” on your situation and its associated pain and start working on moving past this painful situation. It helps you learn the lesson, heal fast and let go.

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So how do we get it?

There are different ways for closure, and each individual has their own way of coping. But here’s some of the ways that you can do to get the needed closure and move on with your life.

1. Take full responsibility for yourself.
It’s ultimately up to you to take the necessary actions to help move you forward. Have conversations with yourself, both asking and answering your own questions in a form of a “self-dialogue.”

Being as honest as you can be will pay off in the long run. The pain, hurt, anger, and disappointment will diminish once you’ve cleared the way to a better, more realistic understanding of the situation.

2. Grieve the loss.
Take plenty of time to do this. There is no set amount of time and no prescribed way; it’s totally up to each person to find that for themselves.

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3. Gather your strengths.

  • Focus on the positives. Make a list of your talents, gifts, and assets.
  • Surround yourself with people who know you well, encourage and support you.
  • Shift the emphasis to what you need, what makes you happy. Don’t worry about pleasing others.
  • Assess where you can make positive change in your life.
  • Define and affirm what you’re able to do something about now.

4. Make a plan for the immediate future.
Determine what’s most important for you moving forward. If necessary, reorder your priorities to allow you to explore different possibilities and opportunities that may present themselves to you.

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5. Create a ritual.
Believe it or not, performing a ritual is a powerful tool to help gain closure.

For example, when a relationship is over, what do you do with all of the meaningful items and objects, such as letters, pictures, etc., that were part of the relationship? A “fire ceremony” is a way to consume the past, but any number of rituals that you personally create can provide symbolic finality and closure.

So in the end closure comes from within and not necessary from others. Grief, cry, and enable yourself to feel all your emotions of sadness and loss, but make sure to always re-climb your state to the happy version at all time.

for the full article visit Psychology today.

How to spend a “Me day”

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Life’s been hectic these past few months, running around, fixing ourselves after the chaotic year we just survived. We all deserve a “me time”, but this time let’s make it a whole day for just ourselves. Because yes we deserve it, and no it’s not selfish.

Let’s start by defining what Me Time is:

Taking some time off, or enjoying some Me Time, is all about a self-care, self-check-in, self pampering time to regain your energy and recharge yourself after being exhausted for some time.

It’s a unique plan for each one of you, but these are the main and some inspiration for you to plan the perfect Me Day!

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  1. Add your day to your calendar: It’s important to be reminded of this day at all time, and not forget about it or postpone it.

2. Remove your super early alarm and wake up naturally, unless you tend to over sleep. ( you don’t want to sleep all day long and miss your “Me Day”).

3. Ditch Your Daily To-Do List.

4. Start your day with water, meditation and some stretching. This will provide your body the energy it needs to take care of itself today.

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5. Go for a walk in nature, plants and flowers tend to relax your stress and anxiety. going for a walk will give you the opportunity of breathing some fresh air, and look at something other than your screens.

6. Cook your favorite food or try some new recipes, and have a quality time listening to some happy music while at it.

7. Catch up on a book you’ve been meaning to read for a long time. You’ll get lost in the wondrous world of that story that you”ll forget time.

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8. Write on your journal: some positive affirmations, some grateful quotes.

9. Pamper yourself with a Hot Bubble Bath.

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10. End your day with a face mask and your favorite/current show, and Sweet Dreams!

If you’ve tried this, Me day, Tell us what was your favorite part and what did you add as your unique touch and taste.

How to draw a bath?

Baths are one of the most relaxing things you can prepare for your comfort. But a lot of times, something does not feel right when we draw the bath for ourselves. So here’s a guide to a very satisfying and relaxing experience in a bathtub.

First: Make yourself a drink. It could be; wine or tea. 

Second: Put on some music to set the mood. You can lit some candles too. (Or use aromatherapy)

Third: Fill your tub halfway with warm water and sea salt, or you can put a bath bomb of your choice.

Fourth: Before getting into the tub, dry brush your full-body to make sure that your blood is fully circulating to be more relaxed in the tub soaked in soap and warm water.

Fifth: Put a face mask on.

Sixth: Lose your warm robe and relax in the bathtub. 

Seventh: Don’t forget to bring a book or something to enjoy your time and don’t get bored quickly.

Eighth: Make sure that your water is still warm. You can add a little salt too.

Ninth: When you feel like it or that you’re bored, take a quick shower to clean your face and your body from the dirty/soapy water.

Tenth: Drain the tub and apply some moisturizer on your face and body. So, you will feel fresh and more relaxed after giving your body a massage.

Enjoy your bathtub ritual and self-pampering time, and prioritize self-care.

It is not recommended to stay in the bath for more than 30 minutes.

Important lifestyle addition: Self-talk

When you are alone or phasing out, you practice a lot of self-talk, analyzing speeches, pep-talks, the bad ones specifically. So in this article, we will see how healthy self-talk is for your mental health and well-being.

Let us see what self-talk means:

Self-talk is the combination of words and sentences we tend to say to ourselves. While thinking about something, analyzing our current situation, or what you are about to do in the future. Self-Talk tends to be negative because, as I said before, we tend to be hard on ourselves due to society.

The importance of Self-Talk:

Only you can motivate you. Self-talk reflects your self-image. How you truly feel about yourself, how you see yourself, and what you believe in yourself. People’s opinions and comments can influence your self-talk.

The brain is like a machine. Whatever data is entering its system, it will adapt to work thoughtfully. So an example of negative self-talk: I am not good enough, I am not beautiful enough, I’m not worthy… ” your brain will automatically think nothing but these things about you. You will always feel drained, tired, unmotivated, and “unworthy”!

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But on the other hand, if your self-talk is positive: I’m lucky, talented, worthy, The whole universe will switch in your favor because you will see the universe from another perspective. You will feel more energetic, happy, motivated, and getting your blessings one after the other!

Positive self-talk is essential for one’s survival. It doesn’t come easy but, once it shifts from the negative, this is where you will get going in life. Choosing the right words when describing yourself always comes in handy and, your life will automatically change for the better. Your performance will boost so will your well-being. Your healthy mind will blow you away with its creativity and the potential that it will give you in return.

Practicing positive self-talk is essential for you to live a healthy life with a boosted well-being. Listening to good music, surrounding yourself with mentors and positive friends helps with your self-talk and your self-image.

Aromatherapy home version

Aromatherapy takes advantage of the effect scents have on us by using plant essences and essential oils to improve psychological and physical well-being.

While it’s more known as an “essential oil massage,” aromatherapy can be used by yourself and enjoy the benefits at home.
It’s not a necessity to have a relaxing aroma-massage to enjoy the benefits of aromatherapy. There are plenty of easy-to-use products that can help you diffuse the essential oils and scents that you need in your house

Reed Diffuser

Electrical Diffuser

Diffusers:
There are two different types of diffusers that you can try: Electrical diffusers and reed diffusers. These two types of diffusers are easy to work with; you just put the essential oil in the water of the electrical diffuser and the reeds in the “reed diffuser” and done!

Oil burner


Oil burners:
here the process is also easy; you light a small candle and put it underneath the ceramic surface of the burner. Add your desired amount of essential oil to the top. And voila, let the magic begins.

Scented candles

Scented candles:
I think these are the easiest to find anywhere. They are fast and efficient. Light the candle and set the mood. Your whole day will get better!

Potpourri

Scented boxes:
Or a modernization to potpourri, these are simple just buy them, decorate your room and enjoy the scent.

Aroma-Bracelets

Aroma bracelets:
We’ve all seen these new stylish bracelets that you can add essential oil to the surface and, the oil will sink into your skin and, you can benefit from the wellness they will provide.

Caution! Some essential oils might not be for you; they might cause irritation for people with pre-existing conditions like allergies and asthma. For everybody else, even if you don’t like it or don’t feel any difference after trying it, there’s no harm.